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In 31 states, rapists are allowed to sue victims they’ve impregnated for custody rights.
There’s a case in Boston, MA right now in which a rapist is taking advantage of this. He pleaded guilty of rape in 2011 and was sentenced to 16 years probation; however, this sentence includes 16 years of family court as well, which the victim must also attend. He’s using this to sue for joint custody of her child and will only withdraw his law suit if he is free from paying any form of child support. This entire sentence seems like much more of a punishment for the victim than it is for the rapist, and for the state to allow such a thing, the victim is suing.
As stated in the court complaint, “Even if the family court ruled in the [victim]’s favor on issues currently in dispute, such as whether the criminal defendant should be granted visitation rights to [her] child, [she] will suffer harm from the constant threat of new issues arising in family court until her child reaches adulthood, including, for example, efforts by the criminal defendant to seek to modify child support orders and enforce his parental rights at the trial court level and on appeal.”
If this woman is forced to attend 16 years of family court with her rapist, she is not only forced to confront a traumatic event that she should never have to deal with again, but she is subjected to the possibility of losing pieces of her child to him over and over again for all of those years. In addition to this constant state of fear and anguish she would face, just by being sent to something considered ‘family’ court—for her and her rapist—she’s being disrespected and her rape undermined by even the suggestion that this is a family situation. By doing this, the law is making felony into family.
In 31 states, rapists are actually given rights instead of having much of anything taken away. In being given these rights, they are being given the chance to further torment the woman and possibly abuse the child. It is not okay to reward rapists and further punish victims, and the ignorance of rape and how our justice system is handling it needs to turn around.
All of you, but particularly those of you who ask “what can I do to be a better ally?”, “how can I support women?” or say “we’re not all like that!”…
HELP US GET RID OF *ANY* BLOG OR USER WHO TAKES OR SUPPORTS CREEPSHOTS.
Creepshots are non consensual photos men take of people they take to be women and girls in both public and private that they then share online for sexual purposes. Many girls are likely underage. The commentary that accompanies these photos is often highly disturbing and the underlying (but often explicit) idea behind it all is the objectification of women and the fetishization of our nonconsent. This shit should not be on tumblr (or anywhere really).
To be blunt: This is a male problem.
What you can do:
Spread the word among your friends, especially male friends
Newspapers across the US which usually run the Doonesbury comic strip have flat out refused to run his latest, which is about abortion. Others have decided to move him to the op-eds section instead.
Cartoonist Garry Trudeau “expressed dismay over the papers’ decision but was unrepentant, describing as ‘appalling’ and ‘insane’ Republican state moves on women’s healthcare.” The Guardian will be running him as usual.
But how truly bad is the ongoing onslaught on women’s reproductive rights? Here’s a round up of our recent op-eds on the issue to give you more context:
"Why do these pontificators exempt men from the consequences of sexual activity? American women aren’t having sex with Ken dolls. They’re not experiencing immaculate conceptions. Where, exactly, are all the men who’ve had sexual relations with or impregnated these ‘slutty’ women? … It’s hard to take seriously the views of all-male Senate panels or vote-hustling politicians when they seem unaware that men actually have sex lives. Women have always been the gatekeepers of sexual morality, of course, and have paid a higher price for their choices. But this shame-and-blame game feels genuinely shocking in the second decade of the 21st century. If men feel they have to control women’s bodies, they could first start with controlling their own."
Sen. Judy Eason McIntyre of Tulsa, Oklahoma held up a sign at a protest Tuesday that said “If I wanted the government in my womb I’d fuck a senator. The Senator was at the capitol to protest anti-abortion legislation in the state.
“When I saw that sign out of all of those signs, I was like, I’ve got to have a picture of it,” said McIntyre, D-Tulsa. “I thought if my 87-year-old mother sees this, I’m going to get hell this weekend, but it was too late,” said McIntyre, according to NewsOK.com
Photo: Sen. Judy Eason McIntyre talks with a protestor during a rally opposing the Personhood measures at the state Capitol, Tuesday, Feb. 28, 2012. Photo by Sarah Phipps, The Oklahoman
Now that in and of itself does not sound so scary, right? Wrong. A trans-vaginal ultrasound is not a normal type of ultrasound. It is an ultrasound that is taken by sticking a probe into a woman’s vagina. And it is completely and totally medically unnecessary. The Republican legislators who have passed this bill admit to it being completely medically unnecessary. It exists for the sole purpose of discouraging women from getting abortions.
I honestly could care less what your personal views on abortion are, but here’s something we have to get straight right now: no matter how you feel about abortion or why, this is government-mandated rape. Think I’m exaggerating? Let’s look at how rape is defined by the federal government of the United States of America:
“The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”
Let’s re-iterate here: there are no exceptions. It doesn’t matter if you are getting an abortion one week or eight months into your pregnancy. You will be forcibly probed. It doesn’t matter if you are aborting for personal reasons or because it’s a medical necessity for either your safety or the safety of your child. You will be forcibly probed. It doesn’t matter if you are fourteen or forty. You will be forcibly probed. It does not matter if your child is the product of incest or even the product of rape. You will be forcibly probed.
Now, I don’t live or vote in Virginia. Technically, there is nothing I can do about this. But currently this bill is on the way to the governor’s desk, and the only hope there is of it not becoming law is if Virginia citizens contact the Governor and tell him about their opposition to him signing this into law. (Contact information is here. Please note that calling generally carries more weight than e-mailing does.)
Please re-blog this story. E-mail it to everyone you know. Tell them to e-mail it to everyone they know. Eventually, some of these people we all know should be from Virginia, and if you are from Virginia, you need to let your voice be heard now. Regardless of if you think life begins at conception, there is no justification, ever, for the government mandating the rape of women.
As sombody who has had one of these for a valid medical reason, I find this APPALLING. Speaking only from personal experience, it was invasive and uncomfortable on more than just a physical level. This is government sanctioned rape, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying.
Fuckin signal boost for this epic fuckery of horrifying levels. Un-freakin-believable.
PLEASE take the time to watch this entire segment
I’m fucking nauseous in tears guys this is… just… fucking vile. Any goddamn way they can manage they will violate and humiliate us.
Tell me feminists are obsolete again. Tell me everything is fine as is again. Watch then and fucking tell me again that nothing needs to be fixed. I dare you.
This is completely fucking vile and I am not going to stand by and do nothing about this. I’m telling everyone I know. I ask you, please watch this. Realize that there is absolutely no part of this that is okay.
(for those who are interested in the video, the mandate specifically is being discussed around the 2:30 mark. the lead up is interesting in and of itself, however)
So yeah, I’m spreading the word about this terrible piece of shit mandate.
Why she rocks: She was an African American journalist, and newspaper owner that was an early leader in the civil rights movement. She documented the problem of lynching in the United States. She was very active in the women’s rights and women’s suffrage movements, establishing many women’s organizations and touring nationally to speak about them.
Quote: “I had an instinctive feeling that the people who have little or no school training should have something coming into their homes weekly which dealt with their problems in a simple, helpful way… so I wrote in a plain, common-sense way on the things that concerned our people.”
Because of this woman… important civil rights issues were addressed, and as a result, banned. She was a stepping stone for women’s suffrage and women’s equality.